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上周我有幸去听了查理. 哈拉里的报告，报告以“五个步骤最大限度利用你的头脑实现你目标”为题。我完全被他的的表演给吸引住了，因此我想在这和你们分享我的感受。
我在整个报告的过程中都做了记录，但我觉得45分钟的录像就能够供您愉快在此观看了（有一种自制的感觉）。报告是作为我在美国纽约布鲁克林RAJE （俄罗斯人—美国人—犹太人经验）这10周节目的一部分。这节目要懂得犹太教，了解希伯来人以及倾听百万富翁和亿万富翁讲述他们的成功之路。
视频有一段安静的部分是我作为观众的时候，即使它有一种自制的感觉。你可以感受到我所感受到的以及听到我和查理的相互配合声音。听我现场对查理的报告的解说是个不错的选择。
五个步骤最大限度利用你的头脑实现你目标
前提条件：
1.不论你拥有多少都已足够。你不需要更多的智慧，更强的力量，或者更多任何的东西。不论你才智有多少，已足够实现你的梦想。
2.不要找借口原谅你的缺点。没有什么东西可以阻碍你实现你的目标。
3.坚定热情去做事。如果你有热情，而且下定决心去做，那么所有的工作都是必要的。你将实行你的梦想。
五个步骤
1. 确定你想要的是什么。
我们应该明确我们想要什么，用我们逻辑的合理的思维去实现我们的目标，而不是让无用的事东西出现在我们的生命里，也不是在过程中让情感来引导我们的决定。很多时候，如果摆脱了束缚我们的感情却成为我们的前进障碍，那对我们来说它就是不利的。
事实上很多时候我们都没有确切的理解我们需要什么。也许我们会说我们想要爱情，快乐以及成功，但是我们不知道他们的定义是什么。这个步骤是我们确定目标的一步，只有确定了目标我们才能有新的理解如何去实现目标。
2.弄清楚你处在的位置。
报告期间，查理给我们一个我曾经听过的非常有趣的例子。一位国王旅游经过一片森林，看见很多树上有很多箭头，而这些箭头正好射在画在树上的牛眼睛上。经过进一步调查，好像是一个小男孩把这些箭射进树上的。不过，他是先把箭射在树上然后再在箭的周围画上牛眼睛的，这只是他游戏的一部分。
这看起来有点像我们生活中所做的事。我们做了一些事情，而后所有的行为都围绕我们所做的事情来进行。是的，我所处的关系是很有攻击性的，但是我很开心也很喜欢这种关系。不过，如果我们清楚的确定什么是快乐和爱，那么我们就可以远离这种关系在任何一个地方重新开始。
3.加入你的感情。
我之前就说过，感情可以成为我们以及我们不符合逻辑不合理的目标之间的分界线并分散我们注意力。这其中只有一部分是正确的。一旦我们不知道我们所想要的东西的真正意义，并在界定的范围内不断的改变我们所处的位置，那么我们现在就能用这个秘密武器。
如果合理利用感情和激情会使我们走上正确的道路。当我们疲倦时，甚至想放弃时它们会推动我们前进，使我们到达梦想的彼岸。情感就像是航天飞机后面的喷气式火箭，它们可以推动我们不断向前。关键是要记住让我们的感情在后面推动，让我们的逻辑和理智在前面指导。
4.用你的头脑去计划你的人生。
这部分很有趣。我是人生计划的一大爱好者。我每天坐下来计划接下来的日子，在任务或者很重要的目标失败之后我就为接下来的日子做准备了。这是从我人生的5年计划和20年计划中得出结论。
这是实现我们目标的一个决定性步骤。从中我们可以得出一个确切的定义（指导）—我们需要什么，知道我们处在什么样的位置（范围），知道要有强烈的感情支持（喷气推进器）以及现在我们需要计划（定位）我们真正想要到达的领域。
5.用你的头脑找到你心中的神。
我和查理已经收集了大量的自助书籍，当我们一讲到Barnes N’ Noble的时候人们就立刻翻到自助这部分了。查理提到说第一个到第四个步骤都在自助书里，但是要知道第五个步骤就必须去看他收集的圣经书籍。这些书籍呈现世界的10条戒律，基督教圣经也是以同样的书籍为基础。
用我们的头脑去找到我们心中的神会给我们人生一种新的目标和方向。这是实现与联系的新水平，在我们生活(方式)其他方面是无法找到它的。我确定你们都已经在享受生活最快乐时刻的55种好方法里读过这个了，这个是我最后的观点。每个人类都渴望发现并与更高级的生生物，提供资料者或是创造者联系在一起。对查理来说到达那个境界的方式就是圣经，但对你们来说可能就是别的宗教信仰或者你的别的思想，或者你做的任何事情。不管怎么样，这是最终的步骤。
幸福：查理的定义
幸福是以你拥有的东西为乐。
这当然是个很有趣的定义。我认为它与许多人在幸福工程里对幸福的想法有内在的联系。
2009年1月15日
2009年1月13日
目标设定——SMART原则
新年到了，看了很多同学的新年计划。
想起之前看《杜拉拉升职记》时，书上提到的SMART原则。
个人很喜欢这个缩写，也许，真正能做到很好的设定目标、坚定不移地完成的人，就是个smart person。
该原则是在工作目标设定中，被普遍运用的法则。
2009年寒假来临之际，希望能从08年的不快中走出，真正有所收获。
好的开始是成功的一半，先从这个原则开始学习。
所谓SMART原则：
S就是specific：意思是设定目标时，一定要具体；
要做到这一点，只要回答以下6个“W”。
*Who: 谁参与
*What: 要完成什么
*Where: 确定一个地点
*When: 确定一个时间期限
*Which: 确立必要条件和限制
*Why: 明确原因，实习此目标的目的或好处
举个例子：你确定个目标——好好学习！这不是一个具体目标。
你可以说“每天去图书馆，至少看书2小时”。
M就是measurable：目标要可衡量，要量化；
确保你的目标可量化，你可以问自己：我怎么知道自己达到目标没？是多少？
有的东西不好量化，也要尽量找出个量化的标准。
比如做一个好研究生。目前在我们专业，大家普遍认为是多发文章，发好文章的就是好学生。（虽然这个标准有时候有失公允，有的学生做了个极可能做不出来的项目，累死累活就是得不到好结果。但是，就像高考，虽然诸多诟病，但还是目前为止最公平的方法。我们只能接收这个标准）。于是，你可以说了，2009年，我的目标是发表一篇SCI论文。
A是attainable：即设定的目标要高，要有挑战性，但一定是可达成的；
当设定的目标对你有很重大的意义时，你会尽最大的努力去完成，用许三多的话说这很有意义。还是读研究生的问题，你说我想能毕业就行了，在中国研究生批量生产的大环境下，这个目标太容易实现，也意味着你很可能在人生最该拼搏的时期浪费了两三年时光，这是一种罪恶（好吧，我承认我某种程度上正在犯罪）。当然，还要顾及到可实现的问题。如果你的目标是在学术造诣上超越爱因斯坦，那么基本上没有实现的可能，跟没有目标是一样的。
R是relevant：设定的目标要有现实性，要和你的实际情况相关联；
设定的目标最好是你愿意干，并且能够干好的。目标的挑战性和现实性并不矛盾。有时候一个高一点的目标比太低的目标实现的可能性更大。因为有挑战性的目标让你有压力，更有助于发挥潜能。
T是time bounding：对设定的目标，要规定什么时间内达成；
没有时间限制，就没有紧迫感。回到做好学生的目标，你问自己，有没有在学习啊。回答往往是肯定的，一年后，你再问自己，学到了什么，很多人回答不上来。
可以设定一个目标，在2009年12月份前，自学完成“工业工程”全部课程。
另：在大目标下分出层次，分步实现大目标，正是实现目标的最好方法。比如上面提到的自学“工业工程”课程，可以把主要的课程收集起来，一个个攻破。
想起之前看《杜拉拉升职记》时，书上提到的SMART原则。
个人很喜欢这个缩写，也许，真正能做到很好的设定目标、坚定不移地完成的人，就是个smart person。
该原则是在工作目标设定中，被普遍运用的法则。
2009年寒假来临之际，希望能从08年的不快中走出，真正有所收获。
好的开始是成功的一半，先从这个原则开始学习。
所谓SMART原则：
S就是specific：意思是设定目标时，一定要具体；
要做到这一点，只要回答以下6个“W”。
*Who: 谁参与
*What: 要完成什么
*Where: 确定一个地点
*When: 确定一个时间期限
*Which: 确立必要条件和限制
*Why: 明确原因，实习此目标的目的或好处
举个例子：你确定个目标——好好学习！这不是一个具体目标。
你可以说“每天去图书馆，至少看书2小时”。
M就是measurable：目标要可衡量，要量化；
确保你的目标可量化，你可以问自己：我怎么知道自己达到目标没？是多少？
有的东西不好量化，也要尽量找出个量化的标准。
比如做一个好研究生。目前在我们专业，大家普遍认为是多发文章，发好文章的就是好学生。（虽然这个标准有时候有失公允，有的学生做了个极可能做不出来的项目，累死累活就是得不到好结果。但是，就像高考，虽然诸多诟病，但还是目前为止最公平的方法。我们只能接收这个标准）。于是，你可以说了，2009年，我的目标是发表一篇SCI论文。
A是attainable：即设定的目标要高，要有挑战性，但一定是可达成的；
当设定的目标对你有很重大的意义时，你会尽最大的努力去完成，用许三多的话说这很有意义。还是读研究生的问题，你说我想能毕业就行了，在中国研究生批量生产的大环境下，这个目标太容易实现，也意味着你很可能在人生最该拼搏的时期浪费了两三年时光，这是一种罪恶（好吧，我承认我某种程度上正在犯罪）。当然，还要顾及到可实现的问题。如果你的目标是在学术造诣上超越爱因斯坦，那么基本上没有实现的可能，跟没有目标是一样的。
R是relevant：设定的目标要有现实性，要和你的实际情况相关联；
设定的目标最好是你愿意干，并且能够干好的。目标的挑战性和现实性并不矛盾。有时候一个高一点的目标比太低的目标实现的可能性更大。因为有挑战性的目标让你有压力，更有助于发挥潜能。
T是time bounding：对设定的目标，要规定什么时间内达成；
没有时间限制，就没有紧迫感。回到做好学生的目标，你问自己，有没有在学习啊。回答往往是肯定的，一年后，你再问自己，学到了什么，很多人回答不上来。
可以设定一个目标，在2009年12月份前，自学完成“工业工程”全部课程。
另：在大目标下分出层次，分步实现大目标，正是实现目标的最好方法。比如上面提到的自学“工业工程”课程，可以把主要的课程收集起来，一个个攻破。
2009年1月8日
【转】为了找到好工作现在要做的20件事
本文转载自沪江网
《波士顿环球报》刊登一篇文章，题目叫“为了找到好工作现在要做的20件事”。
1. Get out of the library. You can have a degree and a huge GPA and not be ready for the
workplace. A student should plan that college is four years of experience rather than 120
credits," says William Coplin, professor at Syracuse University and author of the book, 10
Things Employers Want You to Learn in College."
第一，走出图书馆。就算有了学位和很高的GPA你也不见得就为工作做好了准备。大学是四年人生经验，不是高学分。在美国的大学，课外活动常常和功课一样重要。
2. Start a business in your dorm room. It's cheap, Google and Yahoo are dying to buy your
website, and it's better than washing dishes in the cafeteria. Note to those who play poker
online until 4 a.m.: Gambling isn't a business. It's an addiction.
第二，从宿舍开始做生意。这很便宜，雅虎、谷歌都会争先恐后地买你弄出来的网站，这比餐馆里洗盘子好多了。至于那些通宵在线玩扑克的人，记住赌博不是生意，赌博是瘾。
3. Don't take on debt that is too limiting. This is not a reference to online gambling,
although it could be. This is about choosing a state school over a pricey private school.
Almost everyone agrees you can get a great education at an inexpensive school. So in many
cases the debt from a private school is more career-limiting than the lack of brand name on
your diploma.
第三，别债务缠身。这和在线赌博关系不大，虽然可能有关系。这是关于应该选择一所州立大学而不是昂贵的私立学校的问题。几乎所有人都同意在不那么贵的学校里也能得到良好的教育。所以从个人前途上看，无债一身轻比花钱买个名牌要有利得多。
4. Get involved on campus. When it comes to career success, emotional intelligence -- social
skills to read and lead others -- get you farther than knowledge or job competence,
according to Tiziana Casciaro, professor at Harvard Business School. Julie Albert, a junior
at Brandeis University, is the director of her a capella group and head of orientation this
year. She hones her leadership skills outside the classroom, which is exactly where to do
it.
第四，积极参加校园的活动。通过这种活动，可以学会怎么理解、帮助别人，满足别人的需要和别人沟通。这在美国文化中，是所谓“领袖素质”的基础。找工作时会被别人另眼相看。千万不要认为自己的生活只有校园而已。
5. Avoid grad school in the liberal arts. One in five English Phd's find stable university
jobs, and the degree won't help outside the university: "Schooling only gives you the
capacity to stand behind a cash register," says Thomas Benton, a columnist at the Chronicle
of Higher Education (who has an English degree from Yale and a tenure-track teaching job.)
第五，不要读文科博士，五分之一的英语博士能找到大学里的稳定的工作，如果走出校门，学位没什么用处。除非你离了学术不能活。读博士对实际工作毫无帮助。
6. Skip the law-school track. Lawyers are the most depressed of all professionals. Stress
itself does not make a job bad, says Alan Kreuger, economist at Princeton University. Not
having control over one's work does make a bad job, though, and lawyers are always acting on
behalf of someone else. Suicide is among the leading causes of premature death among
lawyers.
第六，别上法学院。律师是所有职业中最压抑的。律师总是代表别人去争利，压力奇大。自杀是律师中第一号非正常死亡的原因。
7. Play a sport. People who play sports earn more money than couch potatoes, and women
executives who played sports attribute much of their career success to their athletic
experience, says Jennifer Cripsen of Sweet Briar College in Virginia. You don't need to be
great at sports, you just need to be part of a team.
第七，参加体育运动。调查表明，大学从事体育的人，毕业后比那些不沾体育的同学明显收入高。美国人从事体育不仅是锻炼身体，而且是培养竞争的才能和领袖素质。一个大学运动队的队长到华尔街找工作，优势不可限量。
8. Separate your expectations from those of your parents. "Otherwise you wake up and realize
you're not living your own life," says ra Robbins, author of the popular new book "The
Overachievers." (Note to parents: If you cringe as you read this list, then you need to read
this book.)
第八，别按着父母的期待生活，“否则你醒来后会发现你过的不是自己的日子。”
9. Try new things that you're not good at. "Ditch the superstar mentality that if you don't
reach the top, president, A+, editor in chief, then the efforts were worthless. It's
important to learn to enjoy things without getting recognition," says Robbins.
第九，干一些你并不擅长的新事物。你对自己未必了解，这是苏格拉底给人类的教诲。所以，请给自己一个机会。
10. Define success for yourself. "Society defines success very narrowly. Rather than
defining success as financial gain or accolades, define it in terms of individual interests
and personal happiness," says Robbins.
第十，以自己为中心来定义成功，别以外在的东西(比如金钱)来定义成功。
11. Make your job search a priority. Jobs do not fall in your lap, you have to chase them.
Especially a good one. It's a job to look for a job. Use spreadsheets to track your
progress. And plan early. Goldman Sachs, for example, starts its information sessions in
September.
第十一，好工作要自己去找，不要等着天上掉馅饼。
12. Take a course in happiness. Happiness study is revolutionizing how we think of
psychology, economics, and sociology. How to be happy is a science that 150 schools teach.
Preview: Learn to be more optimistic. This class will show you how.
第十二，选修关于“幸福”的心理课程。在哈佛，这一课程是最热门的课之一。
13. Take an acting course. The best actors are actually being their most authentic selves,
says Lindy Amos of communications coaching firm TAI Resources. Amos teaches executives to
communicate authentically so that people will listen and feel connected. You need to learn
to do this, too, and you may as well start in college.
第十三，上表演课。美国社会整个就是个舞台。从教授、政治家、企业总裁，到律师、将军、记者，不会表演就很难出头。
14. Learn to give a compliment. The best compliments are specific, so ``good job" is not
good, writes Lisa Laskow Lahey, psychologist at Harvard and co-author of ``How the Way We
Talk Can Change the Way We Work." Practice on your professors. If you give a good compliment the recipient will think you're smarter: Big payoff in college, but bigger payoff in the
work world.
第十四，学会赞美别人。在生活中，既要当好演员，也要当好观众。很多时候我总是感觉和别人有距离，其实就是缺那简单的几句问候和一个拥抱。
15. Use the career center. These people are experts at positioning you in the workforce and
their only job is to get you a job. How can you not love this place? If you find yourself
thinking the people at your college's career center are idiots, it's probably a sign that
you really, really don't know what you're doing.
第十五，使用职业咨询服务机构。美国大学一个重要部门就是求职咨询机构。专业人员帮你分析自己的长短，以及就业市场，帮助你准备面试，修改申请信。
16. Develop a strong sense of self by dissing colleges that reject you. Happy people have
``a more durable sense of self and aren't as buffeted by outside events," writes Sonja
Lyubomirsky of the University of California-Riverside. When bad things happen, don't take it
personally. This is how the most successful business people bounce back quickly from
setback.
第十六，被拒后应该坦然以对。要自己定义自己，不要用外在指标定义自己。
17. Apply to Harvard as a transfer student. Sure people have wild success after going to an
Ivy League school but this success is no more grand than that of the people who applied and
got rejected. All people who apply to Ivy League schools seem to have similar high self-
confidence and ambition, even if they don't get in, according to a study by Kreuger.
第十七，以转校生的身份申请哈佛。人们从常春藤名校毕业无疑会取得巨大的成功，但是那些申请后被拒的学生也不差。所有申请常春藤名校的人都有同样的自信和野心，即使不能入校就读。
18. Get rid of your perfectionist streak. It is rewarded in college, but it leads to insane
job stress and an inability to feel satisfied with your work. And for all of you still stuck
on number 6, about ditching the law school applications: The Utah Bar Journal says that
lawyers are disproportionately perfectionists.
十八，不要过分追求完美，不要给自己不必要的压力。生活不止是工作，学习，它还有很多很多。
19. Work your way though college. Getting involved in student organizations counts, and so
does feeding children in Sierra Leone or sweeping floors in the chemistry building. Each
experience you have can grow into something bigger. Albert was an orientation leader last
year, and she turned that experience into a full-time summer job that morphed into a
position managing 130 orientation leaders. A great bullet on the resume for a junior in
college.
第十九，要靠打工读完大学，积累工作经验。这很重要，大部分中国学生做不到，甚至认为打工没有必要，其实打过工的人才会真正珍惜生活。
20. Make to do lists. You can't achieve dreams if you don't have a plan to get there.
第二十，把你的目标列成表，因为你没有计划就不可能成功。不要整天没事干老胡思乱想，只有真正的行动才能拯救你！
《波士顿环球报》刊登一篇文章，题目叫“为了找到好工作现在要做的20件事”。
1. Get out of the library. You can have a degree and a huge GPA and not be ready for the
workplace. A student should plan that college is four years of experience rather than 120
credits," says William Coplin, professor at Syracuse University and author of the book, 10
Things Employers Want You to Learn in College."
第一，走出图书馆。就算有了学位和很高的GPA你也不见得就为工作做好了准备。大学是四年人生经验，不是高学分。在美国的大学，课外活动常常和功课一样重要。
2. Start a business in your dorm room. It's cheap, Google and Yahoo are dying to buy your
website, and it's better than washing dishes in the cafeteria. Note to those who play poker
online until 4 a.m.: Gambling isn't a business. It's an addiction.
第二，从宿舍开始做生意。这很便宜，雅虎、谷歌都会争先恐后地买你弄出来的网站，这比餐馆里洗盘子好多了。至于那些通宵在线玩扑克的人，记住赌博不是生意，赌博是瘾。
3. Don't take on debt that is too limiting. This is not a reference to online gambling,
although it could be. This is about choosing a state school over a pricey private school.
Almost everyone agrees you can get a great education at an inexpensive school. So in many
cases the debt from a private school is more career-limiting than the lack of brand name on
your diploma.
第三，别债务缠身。这和在线赌博关系不大，虽然可能有关系。这是关于应该选择一所州立大学而不是昂贵的私立学校的问题。几乎所有人都同意在不那么贵的学校里也能得到良好的教育。所以从个人前途上看，无债一身轻比花钱买个名牌要有利得多。
4. Get involved on campus. When it comes to career success, emotional intelligence -- social
skills to read and lead others -- get you farther than knowledge or job competence,
according to Tiziana Casciaro, professor at Harvard Business School. Julie Albert, a junior
at Brandeis University, is the director of her a capella group and head of orientation this
year. She hones her leadership skills outside the classroom, which is exactly where to do
it.
第四，积极参加校园的活动。通过这种活动，可以学会怎么理解、帮助别人，满足别人的需要和别人沟通。这在美国文化中，是所谓“领袖素质”的基础。找工作时会被别人另眼相看。千万不要认为自己的生活只有校园而已。
5. Avoid grad school in the liberal arts. One in five English Phd's find stable university
jobs, and the degree won't help outside the university: "Schooling only gives you the
capacity to stand behind a cash register," says Thomas Benton, a columnist at the Chronicle
of Higher Education (who has an English degree from Yale and a tenure-track teaching job.)
第五，不要读文科博士，五分之一的英语博士能找到大学里的稳定的工作，如果走出校门，学位没什么用处。除非你离了学术不能活。读博士对实际工作毫无帮助。
6. Skip the law-school track. Lawyers are the most depressed of all professionals. Stress
itself does not make a job bad, says Alan Kreuger, economist at Princeton University. Not
having control over one's work does make a bad job, though, and lawyers are always acting on
behalf of someone else. Suicide is among the leading causes of premature death among
lawyers.
第六，别上法学院。律师是所有职业中最压抑的。律师总是代表别人去争利，压力奇大。自杀是律师中第一号非正常死亡的原因。
7. Play a sport. People who play sports earn more money than couch potatoes, and women
executives who played sports attribute much of their career success to their athletic
experience, says Jennifer Cripsen of Sweet Briar College in Virginia. You don't need to be
great at sports, you just need to be part of a team.
第七，参加体育运动。调查表明，大学从事体育的人，毕业后比那些不沾体育的同学明显收入高。美国人从事体育不仅是锻炼身体，而且是培养竞争的才能和领袖素质。一个大学运动队的队长到华尔街找工作，优势不可限量。
8. Separate your expectations from those of your parents. "Otherwise you wake up and realize
you're not living your own life," says ra Robbins, author of the popular new book "The
Overachievers." (Note to parents: If you cringe as you read this list, then you need to read
this book.)
第八，别按着父母的期待生活，“否则你醒来后会发现你过的不是自己的日子。”
9. Try new things that you're not good at. "Ditch the superstar mentality that if you don't
reach the top, president, A+, editor in chief, then the efforts were worthless. It's
important to learn to enjoy things without getting recognition," says Robbins.
第九，干一些你并不擅长的新事物。你对自己未必了解，这是苏格拉底给人类的教诲。所以，请给自己一个机会。
10. Define success for yourself. "Society defines success very narrowly. Rather than
defining success as financial gain or accolades, define it in terms of individual interests
and personal happiness," says Robbins.
第十，以自己为中心来定义成功，别以外在的东西(比如金钱)来定义成功。
11. Make your job search a priority. Jobs do not fall in your lap, you have to chase them.
Especially a good one. It's a job to look for a job. Use spreadsheets to track your
progress. And plan early. Goldman Sachs, for example, starts its information sessions in
September.
第十一，好工作要自己去找，不要等着天上掉馅饼。
12. Take a course in happiness. Happiness study is revolutionizing how we think of
psychology, economics, and sociology. How to be happy is a science that 150 schools teach.
Preview: Learn to be more optimistic. This class will show you how.
第十二，选修关于“幸福”的心理课程。在哈佛，这一课程是最热门的课之一。
13. Take an acting course. The best actors are actually being their most authentic selves,
says Lindy Amos of communications coaching firm TAI Resources. Amos teaches executives to
communicate authentically so that people will listen and feel connected. You need to learn
to do this, too, and you may as well start in college.
第十三，上表演课。美国社会整个就是个舞台。从教授、政治家、企业总裁，到律师、将军、记者，不会表演就很难出头。
14. Learn to give a compliment. The best compliments are specific, so ``good job" is not
good, writes Lisa Laskow Lahey, psychologist at Harvard and co-author of ``How the Way We
Talk Can Change the Way We Work." Practice on your professors. If you give a good compliment the recipient will think you're smarter: Big payoff in college, but bigger payoff in the
work world.
第十四，学会赞美别人。在生活中，既要当好演员，也要当好观众。很多时候我总是感觉和别人有距离，其实就是缺那简单的几句问候和一个拥抱。
15. Use the career center. These people are experts at positioning you in the workforce and
their only job is to get you a job. How can you not love this place? If you find yourself
thinking the people at your college's career center are idiots, it's probably a sign that
you really, really don't know what you're doing.
第十五，使用职业咨询服务机构。美国大学一个重要部门就是求职咨询机构。专业人员帮你分析自己的长短，以及就业市场，帮助你准备面试，修改申请信。
16. Develop a strong sense of self by dissing colleges that reject you. Happy people have
``a more durable sense of self and aren't as buffeted by outside events," writes Sonja
Lyubomirsky of the University of California-Riverside. When bad things happen, don't take it
personally. This is how the most successful business people bounce back quickly from
setback.
第十六，被拒后应该坦然以对。要自己定义自己，不要用外在指标定义自己。
17. Apply to Harvard as a transfer student. Sure people have wild success after going to an
Ivy League school but this success is no more grand than that of the people who applied and
got rejected. All people who apply to Ivy League schools seem to have similar high self-
confidence and ambition, even if they don't get in, according to a study by Kreuger.
第十七，以转校生的身份申请哈佛。人们从常春藤名校毕业无疑会取得巨大的成功，但是那些申请后被拒的学生也不差。所有申请常春藤名校的人都有同样的自信和野心，即使不能入校就读。
18. Get rid of your perfectionist streak. It is rewarded in college, but it leads to insane
job stress and an inability to feel satisfied with your work. And for all of you still stuck
on number 6, about ditching the law school applications: The Utah Bar Journal says that
lawyers are disproportionately perfectionists.
十八，不要过分追求完美，不要给自己不必要的压力。生活不止是工作，学习，它还有很多很多。
19. Work your way though college. Getting involved in student organizations counts, and so
does feeding children in Sierra Leone or sweeping floors in the chemistry building. Each
experience you have can grow into something bigger. Albert was an orientation leader last
year, and she turned that experience into a full-time summer job that morphed into a
position managing 130 orientation leaders. A great bullet on the resume for a junior in
college.
第十九，要靠打工读完大学，积累工作经验。这很重要，大部分中国学生做不到，甚至认为打工没有必要，其实打过工的人才会真正珍惜生活。
20. Make to do lists. You can't achieve dreams if you don't have a plan to get there.
第二十，把你的目标列成表，因为你没有计划就不可能成功。不要整天没事干老胡思乱想，只有真正的行动才能拯救你！
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